They have betrayed us, lied to us, broken our hearts, and destroyed our trust. The men we loved have abandoned us. But for every bad man, there is a good man. A man who may have to shoulder the blame for the man before him. As women on the journey towards embracing wholeness, we must take ownership over our own healing. In doing so, we welcome peace, understanding and abundance into our lives.
Acknowledging the hurt.
Acknowledging our pain is the first step in healing it. When we search our hearts and invite God’s healing love — we break the negative cycles of self-abuse and shame. There is nothing wrong with being angry; anger simply means we are hurt. Our pain validates our value, our hearts, and our tenderness. When we have been wounded, we acknowledge the anger and commit to finding healthy ways to work through it and release it. Refuse to take on the burden of self-blame for another person’s hurtful actions towards you. God moves in order, He reveals and then He heals.
Good and safe men.
There are jerks and there are kings. There are queens and there are witches. Both sexes have good and bad. When I was single, I was blessed to have brothers who showed me the goodness of men. I am still surrounded by good men. I know they exist and their presence is a blessing. The presence of good men helps to rebuild our belief in men. Pray that your eyes and heart are opened to the good men around you.
We are not guests in our lives– we are the owners of them. We are responsible for our own happiness. No person outside of us is as intimately connected to our personal well-being as we are. If you are in a cycle of chronic blame, seek support and healing from codependency. If you keep attracting relationships into your life that tear you down, look within. As Author James Allen profoundly stated, “We do not attract what we want, we attract what we are.”
Forgive to get free.
The champion spirit is someone who can allow past hurt, betrayal and pain to create an inner strength and clarity that the world cannot shake. When someone hurts you, don’t close your heart & harden your soul with bitterness. The GREATEST loss would be to lose the truth of who you are. Unforgiveness blocks future goodness. There is no future without forgiveness. When we choose to release another person, we release ourselves. We escape the prison of our own minds when we choose to forgive.
Let love transform you. Heal you. Change you. Bless you my sister as your eyes are fully opened to the goodness of life all around you, including good men. On my personal journey of nurturing wholeness and inner-peace– I have learned that love restores what is broken, heals what is wounded, and guides what is lost. Forgiveness sets the captive heart free, and invites love to rush in.
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